Get married?

How do I get Married?

What is special about Christian Marriage?

Marriage is not exclusive to Christianity. We do, however, believe that it is something given by God as part of his creation, and we believe that Christian marriage has an added dimension to it.

Can I get married at the Parish Church?

Those coming for marriage must be single, over 18 (or over 16 with parental permission) and unrelated as directed in the Table of Kindred and Affinity. The clergy are unable to remarry persons who have previously made a life long vow before God.

Since October 2008 the rules have changed, allowing those with a demonstrable connection with the parish, to marry here.  Qualifying connections for UK citizens include:

• One of you was baptised at St Thomas' or confirmed as a member of this parish (recorded in our confirmation register)
• Your parents or grandparents were married at St Thomas'
• One of you has lived in the parish as your main residence for at least six months (even if you no longer live here); or your parents have lived in the parish for a six month period during your lifetime
• You or your parents have habitually worshipped here for a period of at least six months.

If you wish to apply for marriage with one of these qualifying connections, you will need to talk to us and be prepared to provide evidence of the connection, together with proof of identity and nationality. These new rules do not affect current residents or church members who are citizens of the UK, as they are still entitled to marry in their parish church.

If you wish to get married at our church, you should get in touch with us well in advance, and before booking your reception venue etc, as we cannot guarantee that your preferred date will be available. Ideally, you should drop in to the Church Centre or telephone (01277 201094) during the Wednesday evening office hour, 7pm - 8pm, as this is when we usually deal with marriage applications.

Before your wedding day, you will be asked to attend a Marriage Preparation Day at St Thomas', usually held early in the new year, with other couples getting married at St Thomas'. Nearer the time, we will also arrange an individual meeting with you and the priest who will officiate at your wedding to discuss the details of the service itself, and you will also be asked to attend a wedding rehearsal a day or two beforehand.